As they say, Friends are true assets of any individual. What I am going to do is not to describe that boring narration about friends and their importance in our life but to present some thoughts on our current level of friendship with people around us in our college and professional life.
Due to high stress being given on the skills of working in a team and simultaneously leading a team for getting a job in the campus, we are left to guess what to do about these contradictory skills. I would try to explain this by an example. While working in a group, we complement each others' limitations and put a team effort to get work done. But when it comes to chose a leader, we all tend to bring our strengths and others' limitations in light. All those efforts of identifying a natural leader would be successful when people behave in non-distorted i.e. natural manner. But when everybody is supposed to possess leadership skills (absence of which feels like you are worthless!), you can not blame people who are trying to acquire those skills starting from couple of weeks before the day of interview. And they continuously do this in their career as they go along. This, in my view, affects the type and level of friendship that we possess in our group. We already see few glimpses of this if we carefully see our daily life.
In my college life of about four years, I have come across many people, incidentally friends thanks to hostels. At the cost of sounding like a psycho, I would say that I do not find many meaningful people here who talk sensible things (leave apart doing !). Here we can not appreciate others for their hard work or achievements. Here we can not encourage anyone to do great things. And lastly, here we can not empathize others in their failures and can not raise hope in them. You can argue that it is the professionalism that we need to learn or that it is the skill necessary to handle people and do progress in the real world (I am not sure about why people use the word real so forcefully before everything they say !). When we have made it mandatory requirement, then we can not think about any solutions, or for that matter, any reasons.
I want to keep those people for my whole life who are friendly to me besides being my friends. For rest of them, I worked in a team with them and learned professionalism and leadership skills (I hope, now you understand what I mean.).
3 comments:
Your take on the issue of leadership Vs team spirit seems paradoxical only in local scenario only (I mean in case of GDs and activities which are highly local to IIT) but what I believe is that If we look in bigger perspective then both things can exist simultaneously, for example if i am connected to something say a team and its progress directly affects me than I would definately want it to be led by the person who is best capable of leading it to success and the person need not bring down my limitations it is just the realization of it that will make all the difference.This will be different ball game if personal benefits because of being leader are higher than the team's success (which is the case with GD groups or the local team buildings that are done in different clubs of IIT). what do you say.........
I think that you are right in the sense that I wrote what I could see here at IIT...but I have no reason to believe why people would not behave the same way in longer scheme of things...the hurry to be on the top provides us enough incentives to distort ourselves to compete for leadership...
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