The accident happens in one’s life, for better or worse.
After meeting with the one, I can only tell that it, the accident, happens only
for better. It is a God’s way of correcting our path and leading us into a
direction which is good for us and our family. It is a chance to realize the
value of life through the near experience of death. It is a test of capacity of
the body to bear the pains of damaged remains. It is a process of hope,
recovery, future, a new start.
We can try to find reasons why it happened only to us. We
can hasten to justify the suffering inflicted upon us through various
instruments such as law of karma, god’s injustice etc. But to accept it as it
is, to live through it as just a phase of life is the best thing we can do with
it. God has His own plans we cannot even fathom. We have a response in our hand
though. There is no limit to the strength and the courage that can be derived
from the incident. There is no limit to the new lessons that can be learnt from
the event. There is no limit to the
gains that can be made even after the accident.
The search of the reason of the fatal event may lead us to
the confused state of mind. The answer to the question can vary ranging from a
very mundane, very futile, very routinely affair to the calculated, risky and
already known reasons. Whatever may be the reason, just thinking about that
would not take us to anywhere. The origin or the seed of the accident are lying
in the Creator’s scheme of things. What He has in store for us is beyond our
imagination.
This phase also enables us to understand that there is only
so much that is in our hands. We can go
on to plan our whole life but the plans that He has can never be bypassed. This
should increase our faith on that unworldly power, should decrease the overt
faith that we have on our own faculties. This is a chance for submitting
ourselves at the altar of His Holy Grace, to dedicate ourselves in the service
of others.
The principle of doing our actions without any particular
desire of getting something in return can truly be actualized after one goes
through this phase of life. The ego, the hubris, the navel-gazing - all are
badly damaged after the accident and what is left is just the vacuum where
anything can be filled in. There can be anger, disdain, guilt, melancholy or
there can be thankfulness, forgiveness, compassion, humanity. The choice is
ours and with better choice, we can actually do something we possibly could
never have done if not met with an accident. A life lived for others is a life
worthwhile, Einstein said. To find yourself is to lose yourself in the service
of others, Gandhi quoted.
If we want to console ourselves with a reason for punishment
inflicted on us, it can be the insane ego, the sole attention to self, the word
I in every line of ourselves. And if we want to derive some satisfaction out of
this tragic event, it is again the smashed hubris which can now be put to good
use, that is, in the service of others.
